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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

የዳንኤል እይታዎች Daniel Kibret's views: ጩኸት እና ንግግር

የዳንኤል እይታዎች Daniel Kibret's views: ጩኸት እና ንግግር:  በታክሲ እየሄድኩ ነው፡፡ መካከለኛው ወንበር ነው የተቀመጥኩት፡፡ አንዲት ሴትዮ በስልክ በንዴትያወራሉ፡፡ በጩኸታቸው መጨረሻ «እንዲያውም ካሁን በኋላ ካንተ ጋር መኖር አልችልም፤ በቃ»ብለው ዘጉት፡፡ በታክሲ ውስጥ የነበርነው ሁሉ በድንጋጤ እያየን ነበር ያዳመጥናቸው፡፡
ወዲያው አንዱ ቀልደኛ «እናቴ ይህንን በቃ የሚል ቃል እንኳን ቢተውት፤ ሌላ ትርጉም ያመጣል»ሲል ሁላችንም ከድንጋጤው ወጥተን ሳቅን፡፡
ስልኩን ሲጨርሱ ሁላችንም ወደርሳቸው መዞራችንን ሲያዩ ደንገጥ አሉ፡፡ አጠገባቸው ተቀምጠውየነበሩት አዛውንትም ፈገግ አሉላቸው፡፡
«ልጄ ልበልሽ ወይስ እናቴ?» አሉ አዛውንቱ በነጭ ሪዛቸው ውስጥ ፈገግታቸውን እያሳዩ፡፡
«ኧረ ልጄ ይበሉኝ» አሉ ተናደው የነበሩት ሴትዮ
«በጣም ጥሩ» አሉና አዛውንቱ ከወንበራቸው ላይ ተመቻቹ፡፡
«እይውልሽ በጣም ስትናደጅ እና በጣም ስትደሰች እባክሽ ውሳኔ አትወስኝ» አሏቸው፡፡ የሁላችንምጆሮ ወደ አዛውንቱ አቀና፡፡
«ቅድም እየተናገርሽ አልነበረምኮ፣ እየጮኽሽ ነበር፡፡ ጩኸት እና ንግግር ይለያያሉ፡፡ መናገርተረጋግቶ፣ አስቦ፣ ውጤቱን አስልቶ ነው፡፡ መጮኽ ግን አፍ እንዳመጣ ነው፡፡» አሏቸው፡፡
«አሁን ምን እንደተናገርሽ ብጠይቅሽ አታስታውሽውም፤ ምክንያቱም አንደበትሽ ሳይሆን ምላስሽ ብቻነበራ የሚናገረው»
«በአንደበት እና በምላስ መካከል ልዩነት አለ እንዴ» አለች አንዲት ወጣት፡፡ሌሎችም ራሳቸውንነቀነቁ፡፡
«ምላስ እና አንደበትማ ይለያያል፡፡ ምላስ ማለት ይቺ ቅልብልቢቱ ናት፡፡» አሉና ምላሳቸውንአውጥተው አቅለበለቧት፡፡ ሁላችንም ሳቅን፡፡ ሾፌሩ በተለይ ከልቡ ሲስቅ ጊዜ፡፡ «ሾፌር ይኼጨዋታ አንተን አይመለከትም ዝም ብለህ ንዳ» አሉት፡፡
«ይቺ እንዳ መጣላት የምትለፈልፈው ናት ምላስ፡፡ አንደበት ግን ልብ አውጥቶ አውርዶ ያቀበለውንለሰሚው የሚናገረው ነው፡፡ አንደበት ምላስን ይጨምራል፤ ምላስ ግን አንደበትን አይጨምርም»አሉ፡፡ ይኼ እኔ በሥነ ልሳን ከተማርኩት የተለየ ፍልስፍና ነው ብዬ መከታተል ቀጠልኩ፡፡
«ታድያ ሰው ሲናደድ ወይንም ሲደሰት ምንድን ነው ማድረግ ያለበት?» አላቸው አንደኛው፡፡
«ቢቻል ዝም ቢል መልካም ነው፤ »
«ካልቻለስ»
«ካልቻለ ደግሞ ውሳኔ የሌለው ነገር መናገር፡፡»
«ለምሳሌ ምን ዓይነት?»
«አየህ ልጄ እጅግ በጣም በተደሰትክ ጊዜ የምትወስነውን ቀርቶ የምትናገረውን አታውቀውም፡፡ስሜት መንፈስን ይጫነዋልና፡፡ ስሜት መንፈስን ከተጫነው ደግሞ ልቡና አይሠራም፡፡ በል በልአድርግ አድርግ የሚል ነው የሚመጣብህ፡፡ ስለዚህ ምንም አለመወሰን ነው፡፡ እነዚህ ገንዘብየሚሰበስቡ ሰዎች ምን እንደሚያደርጉ ታውቃላችሁ?» ብለው ሲጠይቁ አናውቅም በሚል ስሜትሁላችንም አየናቸው፡፡
«የሚያደርጉትኮ ሁላችንም እንድንደሰት ወይንም እንድናዝን ማድረግ ነው፡፡ ስሜታችንን መቀስቀስነው፡፡ ያን ጊዜ እኛ እጅግ በማዘንም ሆነ እጅግ በመደሰት ይህንን ያህል እንሰጣለን ብለን ቃልእንገባለን፡፡ ታድያ አንዳንዱ ሰው ስሜቱ ተረጋግቶ መንፈሱ ሲያንሠራራ ምን ነክቶኝ ነው ይላል፡፡ለዚህ ነው ስትደሰቱ ወይንም ስታዝኑ አትወስኑ ያልኳችሁ፡፡
«ግዴላችሁም አሳልፉት፡፡ ንዴት ዘላቂ አይደለም፡፡ ደስታም ጊዜያዊ ነው፡፡ ሰው አንድን ነገርከመናገሩ በፊት አምስት ነገሮች ያስፈልጉታል፡፡»
«ምን ምን» አልናቸው፡፡
«የቀደመ ዕውቀት፣ የቀደመ ልምድ፣ ያለበት ሁኔታ፣ የሚያመጣው ውጤት እና መፍትሔው መናገርነው ወይ?» የሚሉት ናቸው፡፡
«ይተንተኑ» አለ ሾፌሩ በንግግራቸው ተስቦ፡፡
«ስለምትናገረው ነገር ታውቃለህን? ወይስ እንዳመጣልህ ነው የምትናገረው? ይኼ ወሳኝ ነው፡፡አንተ ይህንን ለመናገር ዕውቀታዊ ሥልጣን አለህ? ይኼ መመለስ አለበት፡፡ ወዳጄ ስለማያውቁትነገር መናገርና ስለሚያውቁት ነገር ዝም ማለት አንድ ናቸው፡፡
«በዚያ ጉዳይ ላይ ከዚህ በፊት ልምድ አለህ? እንደዚያ ተናግረህ ነበር ካሁን ቀደም? ታድያ ምንገጠመህ? በሌሎች ሰዎችስ ምን ተማርክ? በጉዳዩ ላይ ምን ልምድ አለህ? ይህንን መልስ፡፡
«ለመሆኑ አሁን ያለህበት ሁኔታ ይህንን ነገር የሚያናግር ነው? እስኪ አስብበት፡፡ ታክሲ ውስጥ ነህ?አውቶቡስ ውስጥ ነህ? ቢሮ ነህ? ቤተ ክርስቲያን ነህ? ብቻህን ነህ? ከሰዎች ጋር ነህ? ደስ ብሎሃል?ከፍቶሃል? ርቦሃል? ጠግበሃል? ቸኩለሃል? ታምመሃል? ቸግሮሃል? ሁኔታህ ንግግርህን ይወስነዋል፡፡አሁን ቅድም እኅቴ የተናገረችው ነገር ታክሲ ውስጥ የሚነገር አይደለም፡፡ ከሰውዬው ጋር ለብቻማለቅ ያለበት ነው፡፡
«ሁኔታዎቹ ገፋፍተውኝ ነው የሚል ሰው አልሰማችሁም? ሊገፋፉትኮ ይችላሉ፡፡ ጥያቄው ለምንእርሱ በዚያ ሁኔታ ይናገራል? ልቡን የሚገፋው ሲያገኝ ከተናገረማ ጀርባውን የሚገፋው ሲያገኝ ገደልይገባል ማለት ነው፡፡ የሚገፋፋ ነገር ካለው ማቆም ነው፡፡
«መናገር ለውጤት መሆን አለበት፡፡ እገሌ ተናጋሪ ነው ለመባል፣ የንግግር ችሎታን ለማሳየት፣እንዴው መለፍለፍ አመል ስለሆነ፣ በሞቅታ ወይንም ተናግሮ አናጋሪ በመኖሩ መሆን የለበትም፡፡
«አስበን እንናገር፤ ወይንም ካላሰብን አንናገር፡፡ ምንም ሃሳብ ከሌለን ዝምታ ከንግግር በላይ ነው፡፡በእያንዳንዱ ንግግር መካከል የዝምታ ጊዜ ያስፈልጋል፡፡ የዝምታ ጊዜ ማለት የማሰቢያ ጊዜ ማለትነው፡፡ የታደሉት በአንደበታቸው ሲናገሩ በውስጣቸው ታላቅ ዝምታ አለ፡፡ ለማሰቢያ የሚሆንዝምታ፡፡
«ከበሮ በሚገባ ለምን ይጮኻል፡፡ የሚጮኽ እና የማይጮኽ ነገር ስላለው ነው፡፡ በከበሮው ግራ ቀኝየተወጠረው ቆዳ ይጮኻል፡፡ በከበሮው ዙርያ የተገጠመው እንጨት ደግሞ ዝም ይላል፡፡ የከበሮውድምጽ ከዝምታው መካከል ስለሚመነጭ ልዩ ነው፡፡ ሰውም ዝምታ እና ንግግር በአንድነትያስፈልጉታል፡፡
አረጋዊው ዝም አሉ፡፡ ምናልባትም እርሳቸው ራሳቸው ዝምታን ሊያሳዩን ይሆናል ብዬ አሰብኩ፡፡
«አምስተኛው ነጥብ ይቀራል» አለ ከጎናቸው የነበረ ተሳፋሪ
«ሞት ይርሳኝና ረሳሁት» አሉና ቀጠሉ፡፡ «አንዳንዱ ነገር በመናገር የማይፈታ አለ፡፡ ወይንምመፍትሔው መናገር ያልሆነ፡፡ ምናልባትም መፍትሔው ዝምታ ሊሆን ይችላል፡፡ ጸሎት ሊሆንይችላል፡፡ ወደ ሕግ መሄድ ሊሆን ይችላል፡፡ ለሚመለከተው ማመልከት ሊሆን ይችላል፡፡ ተግባርሊሆን ይችላል፡፡ ታድያ በመናገር ለማትፈታው ነገር ለምን በመናገር ትደክማለህ?»
«በሉ አንድ ታሪክ ነግሬያችሁ ልውረድ፤ እዚሁ ልታስቀሩኝኮ ነው፡፡» ፈገግ አሉ በነጩ ሪዛቸውመካከል፡፡
«በድሮ ጊዜ አንድ ሰው ጥፋት ያጠፋና ዳኛ ፊት ይቀርባል» ሁላችንም የተመካከርን ይመስል በአንድላይ «እሺ» አልናቸው፡፡
«ታድያ ዳኛው ሦስት ዓይነት የቅጣት ምርጫ አቀረቡለት፡፡ አንድ ኪሎ ሽንኩርት እየላጠ መብላት፣አንድ መቶ ጅራፍ መገረፍ፣ ወይንም አምስት መቶ ብር መክፈል፡፡ ሰውዬው ለማሰብ የሚሆን ልቡናየሌለው ነበርና የመጀመርያ ምርጫ ሆኖ ስላየው ብቻ «ሽንኩርቱን እበላለሁ» አላቸው፡፡
«ቀረበለት አንድ ኪሎ ሽንኩርት፡፡ ገና አንድ ሁለት መብላት ሲጀምር ዓይኑ ማልቀስ ለሐጩምመዝረብረብ ጀመረ፡፡ አልቻለም፡፡ ከመቀመጫው ተስፈንጥሮ ተነሣና፡፡
«መቶ ጅራፍ መገረፍ ይሻለኛል» አላቸው፡፡ ወዲያው ኃይለኛ ገራፊዎች ተጠሩና እየተፈራረቁይለበልቡት ጀመር፡፡ ግማሽ እንደደረሰ አልቻለም፡፡ እጁን ወደ ላይ አነሣ፡፡
«እህሳ» አሉት ዳኛው፡፡
«አልቻልኩም» አላቸው፡፡
«ታድያ ምን ይሻላል» አሉት እየሳቁ፡፡
«በቃ አምስት መቶ ብሩን እከፍላለሁ» አለ ከተኛበት እየተነሣ፡፡
«ያንተ ትልቁ ጥፋት መጀመርያ ወንጀል መሥራትህ ብቻ አይደለም፡፡ ማሰብ አለመቻልህ እንጂ፡፡ምናለ አስበህ ከሦስቱ አንዱን ብትመርጥ ኖሮ፡፡ እኔ ከሦስቱ አንዱን እንድትቀጣ ነበር የወሰንኩት፡፡አንተ ግን መናገር እንጂ ማሰብ ባለመቻልህ ሦስቱንም ተቀጣህ፡፡» አሉት፡፡
«ወዳጆቼ ሳያስቡ እንዳመጣ መናገር አንዱን ችግር ሦስት እጥፍ ያደርገዋል፡፡»     
አሉና ወረዱ፡፡ አንዳንዶቻችን ወረድን፡፡ ሌሎች በታክሲው ቀጠሉ፡፡ አንዳንዶችም ከአረጋዊው ጋርከታክሲው በኋላም ጨዋታ ሳይቀጥሉ አይቀሩም፡፡ እኔ ግን የተናገሩትን ነበር የማመላልሰው፡፡

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

How to Celebrate Valentine's Day Without Spending Money




Celebrate Valentine's Day Without Spending Money


Difficulty:
 
Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need

  • CD Players
  • Answering Machines
  • Printers
  • Candles
  • Flowers
  • Picnic Basket
  • Wrapping Paper
  • Hershey's Kisses Candy
  • Sparkling Waters
  • Breakfast Tray

  1. Show Her You Love Her

    • 1
      Leave a note on her pillow, a note on her dressing table mirror, a note on the breakfast table, and a note on her car's steering wheel.
    • 2
      Find a classic love poem and write it on the bathroom mirror.
    • 3
      Bring her breakfast in bed - with a love note on the tray.
    • 4
      Draw a heart on her makeup mirror.
    • 5
      Use a can of water-soluble, non-toxic aerosol paint to write a message of love on the grass in your yard.
    • 6
      Call her favorite radio station and request a romantic song during the time she drives to work.
    • 7
      Change the welcome message on your answering machine to an expression of love.
    • 8
      Show up at her workplace, meet her as she takes her break, and whisk her away to a lovely park. Have a picnic lunch, complete with candle and rose.
    • 9
      Write her a long letter, one in which you recall the most emotional parts of your romantic history.
    • 10
      Print out "I Love You" posters on your computer, put them on your garage door and on light posts around the neighborhood.
    • 11
      Ask her to watch the sunset with you - and promise her your love will burn longer than the sun.
    • 12
      Open the windows, put her favorite romantic song on the CD player, and invite her to dance under the stars.

    Show Him the Romantic Flame Still Burns

    • 1
      Put a note on the bathroom mirror promising to share an afternoon delight.
    • 2
      Fill his car with balloons, each with an "I Love You" message inside.
    • 3
      Find his car at work and leave a note on the steering wheel suggesting a romantic rendezvous. Meet him with drinks and snacks and a love note.
    • 4
      Meet him after work wearing your sexiest outfit and tempt him away to lover's lane. Carry along a bottle of sparkling water and a basket of canapés.
    • 5
      Leave him a series of notes to follow so that you meet in a romantic place.
    • 6
      Leave a trail of paper hearts, each with a loving message, from the front door to the bedroom for him to find as he comes home from work.
    • 7
      Cook his favorite dinner and serve it by candlelight.
    • 8
      Wrap up your prettiest negligee in a fancy package, complete with a note that promises a romantic evening.
    • 9
      Or decorate your bedroom in a theme - tropical island, old West, ancient castle - that appeals to his interests.
    • 10
      Light candles in your bedroom and lay out a romantic picnic on your bed.
    • 11
      Scatter Hershey's Chocolate Kisses all over the bed.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Temesgen Tafese Ethiopian Idol Winner New Single


Saturday, December 3, 2011

Success and Failure in Life



What is Success? Answer to this may vary from person to person. Success gives us happiness, it gives us satisfaction.But if you ask me, success is the fulfillment of a goal for which you put in the best of your efforts and time. Each minute, each second, all you think about is how to fulfill that goal. Each right step towards it is a milestone and even one step gone wrong may be devastating and lead to failure. The joy and sense of achievement attained on reaching the goal is unmatched. However, success without failure is not possible. As they say, "A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him."

Even the smallest of our daily life activities involve success and failure. For instance, reaching your place of work on time, inspite of obstacles, is a goal. Achieving this goal may be a small success, but significant enough to start your day in the right way. If you fail to achieve this small target, you are welcomed by taunts and insults. This has a domino effect on all the activities of the day.

Even success can have its ill-effects
For example, when you do a very important and difficult task right, you will be expected to do it right, with the same level of excellence each time. This task, of doing same activity repeatedly, can be very painful and irritating. There may come a point when you will be forced to do it without any motivation. Also, doing something challenging, builds confidence, which is good. Also when you take up herculean tasks and do them right too, it may lead to over confidence and get you all cocky which may have bad effect on your work. And if it gets into your head, it is a catastrophe. It has the potential to disrupt your personal as well as professional life.

Failure has its importance too
Each step in life, no matter how small, is important. So is success and failure. Wondering how failure is important? Well, failure makes you learn, makes you tough, gives you strength, the zest, the motivation required for something which may previously seem impossible. Remember, "Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure". Sometimes, it just makes you realise what your capabilities and limitations are. After all, not everything in life is dependent on you. There are 7 billion others out there to screw your life in some or the other way.

However, if a moment of failure is not taken in the right manner, it can be discouraging and disastrous. Especially, when it directly affects your loved ones. In the worst cases it can lower your self-esteem and confidence. To avoid such a situation, it is essential to have a plan B, or at least be prepared for the situation, mentally. After failure, the person first spends time in relenting and regretting what went wrong and promising oneself that next time the same mistake would not be committed. The next step is to identify what exactly went wrong. Next, the person decides what is to be done with respect to starting all over again or leaving it and moving on, carrying the experience with you for the rest of your life. Failure can mean two things - First, one or more steps went wrong. And second, the goal was unachievable, not that it was impossible, but in the given the constraints it could not be achieved. If you commit yourself to something, make sure you at least know the consequences of its success and failure, not only for you, but the people who are going be affected through you.

At the end of the day, all you should worry about is what new experience you had today. And not about failure, because "success is sweeter when you have tasted failure". You will realize that each point of success or failure and each bit of hard work you put in counts, in this journey called LIFE.

"Life is a process. There is no success or failure – only feedback."

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